I received this little message in an email today and rather than send it to five friends I thought I’d post it here.  I hope you enjoy it and it makes you smile.

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds ,

What does love mean?
The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined
Here’s what they had to say…out of the mouths of babes:
‘When my grandmother got arthritis , she couldn’t bend over and paint
her toenails anymore.. So my grandfather does it for her all the time ,
even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.’

Rebecca- age 8

‘When someone loves you , the way they say your name is different.
You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.’
Billy – age 4

‘Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne
and they go out and smell each other.’

Karl – age 5

‘Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French
fries without making them give you any of theirs.’

Chrissy – age 6

‘Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.’
Terri – age 4 (I love this one)

‘Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip
before giving it to him , to make sure the taste is OK.’

Danny – age 7

‘Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss’
Emily – age 8

‘Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents
and listen.’

Bobby – age 7 (Wow! Amazing insight)

‘If you want to learn to love better , you should start with a friend who you hate ‘
Nikka – age 6 (we need a few million more Nikka’s on this planet)

‘Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt , then he wears it everyday.’
Noelle – age 7

‘Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.’
Tommy – age 6

‘During my piano recital , I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.’
Cindy – age 8

‘My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.’
Clare – age 6

‘Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.’
Elaine-age 5

‘Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford .’
Chris – age 7

‘Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.’
Mary Ann – age 4

‘I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.’
Lauren – age 4

‘When you love somebody , your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.’
Karen – age 7(what an image)

‘Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross..’
Mark – age 6 (This one made me laugh)

‘You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it , you should say it a lot. People forget.’
Jessica – age 8

And the final one
The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an
elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.
Upon seeing the man cry , the little boy went into the old gentleman’s
yard , climbed onto his lap , and just sat there.
When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor , the little boy said ,
‘Nothing , I just helped him cry’

If we take the time to listen to the very young and the very old, we will be bathed in the gentle truths that we forget as we work at being adults in a crazy world.  These souls who’s wisdom comes from the clarity of innocence and wonder, as well the knowing that comes from a lifetime of experience ultimately remind us that…

All is love and All is well.

Till next time. Be kind to yourself

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It’s been awhile since my last post and I apologize. I have been busy with LIFE. This year has been interesting to say the least. Worldwide a shift in governments, economies collapsing, businesses closing, health issues for many, people passing and babies being born. But one thing is for sure.

Our population is aging. In fact every 7 seconds someone in America is turning 50. By the year 2015, three short years, 45% of the population will be over 50. That’s almost half. Now, now, don’t let all this depress you. It’s not all bad news!

As a culture we are making new decisions, re-evaluating what is important, setting new goals, and connecting to each other like never before. Young people are able to afford housing! People of all ages are going back to school. Families are moving closer together and helping each other out. Our purchases are smarter. No longer do we buy the newest model to replace a model that is still functional, just because we can.

Life is changing and so are we. We have a choice about how we think. And how we think will determine what we do. By now you may be asking yourself: what does this have to do with aging? Well, since so many of us are entering the latter years of our lives, perhaps it is time to change the way we think about aging too.

Personally, I have always thought of aging as a natural process and one to feel blessed to achieve. I grew up with my yiayia (granmother in Greek) and watched as she gracefully aged to her 95 years. Even though she certainly slowed down, she never lost her position in the family as the matriarch. She was always the one passing out wisdom, telling fascinating stories, taking the time to hold and rock the babies, and teaching me how to live in the present moment.

Of course we tried to protect her from things we felt she was too old to understand. But she constantly surprised me by letting me know that when it came to human nature there was really nothing new. We might have more gadgets, more toys, more ways to entertain ourselves, and certainly more stress. But when it comes to our basic needs, our fears, and our dreams for ourselves and our kids …we are all the same.

I guess that is why I embrace all stages and ages of life. I recognize the beauty and delight in all of them. From the innocence of a newborn as it discovers a new world, to the wisdom of the senior as he/she discovers meaning out of a lifetime of experiences.

I hope that something here has touched your heart and made you question what you think about aging. I challenge everyone to consider aging a privilege instead of a curse. I invite you to spend some time with your senior talking about this and maybe even asking them if they ever talked to their parents about it. Or at least what their perception of their parents’ aging process was like. It might be enlightening.

And so, my friends, as so many of us enter the last half of our lives, let us enjoy! Let us celebrate! Let us inspire the younger generation! Let us continue to grow and learn! And let us do all this with open minds and hearts.

As always, Be kind to yourselves

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Is your senior parent your best friend?

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Don’t rush a senior citizen: you might learn something

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